tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34240686.post444709251584452217..comments2024-03-20T05:19:35.526-04:00Comments on Mauigirl's Meanderings: To a Friend Who Died Too YoungMauigirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15529827915262851910noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34240686.post-78532597227777922792007-10-23T08:56:00.000-04:002007-10-23T08:56:00.000-04:00Thanks, Fairlane. I agree, we can only learn from...Thanks, Fairlane. I agree, we can only learn from the past and then try not to repeat the mistakes.Mauigirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15529827915262851910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34240686.post-66859127225576933892007-10-22T23:35:00.000-04:002007-10-22T23:35:00.000-04:00I think your poem turned out exactly as it was int...I think your poem turned out exactly as it was intended, perfect.<BR/><BR/>I'm positive they felt the same as you. <BR/><BR/>We can learn a lot from regret. I don't think it's "wrong" to regret or to remember your mistakes.<BR/><BR/>All we can do is what we can do, and when given another opportunity try to do things differently.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34240686.post-43089823119969880082007-10-18T18:49:00.000-04:002007-10-18T18:49:00.000-04:00Thanks so much for your comments, M, Ruth and Icar...Thanks so much for your comments, M, Ruth and Icarus. It definitely makes you think and realize how short and precious life is...Mauigirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15529827915262851910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34240686.post-75186754011758330672007-10-18T16:48:00.000-04:002007-10-18T16:48:00.000-04:00It's a grim lesson, learnt the hard way. At least ...It's a grim lesson, learnt the hard way. At least as far as those whom we really value, it is good if we try to live like there was no tomorrow....just in case. We must always be prepared to pay a price for the quality of our relationships, so it is better to water them, nourish them and feel that we are at peace with each other....just in case.<BR/><BR/>And the poem expresses everything you are feeling. Well done!Icarushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08516491146437398690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34240686.post-66013737704857687472007-10-18T14:30:00.000-04:002007-10-18T14:30:00.000-04:00My dear Mauigirl; your second paragraph said so mu...My dear Mauigirl; your second paragraph said so much even before I read your poem. What a beautiful heartfelt tribute. Whatever powers or beliefs any of us may have I feel sure that your friend knows how you are feeling and will understand. <BR/>{{HUGS}<BR/>RxRUTHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11389012059140660415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34240686.post-51292770149793065852007-10-18T13:20:00.000-04:002007-10-18T13:20:00.000-04:00So sorry about your friend. And your message is sp...So sorry about your friend. And your message is spot on. Holding on to the negative doesn't help anybody. <BR/><BR/>I think we are so used to waking up each morning we forget that someday, perhaps all of a sudden, we won't, or someone we know and love won't. <BR/><BR/>I try to live with the assumption that anyone can go anytime and try to say what needs to be said, but the reality is I have several people I am in a similar sit. with as the one you describe and I have let busy-ness and being preoccupied with other things get in the way of contacting them. <BR/><BR/>I hope you don't beat yourself up about the lack of contact before your friend passed; I bet your friend was feeling similar feelings and knew deep down your love/care for him/her.<BR/><BR/>Best,<BR/><BR/>MMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14019009149011549894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34240686.post-37481569135153462942007-10-18T12:42:00.000-04:002007-10-18T12:42:00.000-04:00Thanks, Friend #2. I do think and hope she knew w...Thanks, Friend #2. I do think and hope she knew we were there Sunday...just wish we could go back in time over the past couple of years and have a "do over."<BR/><BR/>Fran, thanks for your message...you are right, we can only change what is, and I hope I will be more aware in the future of how precious time is and if a situation like this arises again, not make the same mistakes.<BR/><BR/>Mary Ellen, thanks so much, I hope you are right.Mauigirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15529827915262851910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34240686.post-37013686495469904442007-10-18T11:23:00.000-04:002007-10-18T11:23:00.000-04:00Sorry for your loss, Mauigirl. I'm sure your frien...Sorry for your loss, Mauigirl. <BR/><BR/>I'm sure your friend felt the same way...wanting to call and fix things. Deep down, I'll bet your friend cared as much for you as you did for (him/her?) .Mary Ellenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07835150057881066641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34240686.post-8293497429355449872007-10-18T10:59:00.000-04:002007-10-18T10:59:00.000-04:00I am so sorry to hear about this loss and its impa...I am so sorry to hear about this loss and its impact on you.<BR/><BR/>What a beautiful poem you have written.<BR/><BR/>If you can, try not to be too mired in your regret, but to live in hope. We can't change what was but we can change what is.<BR/><BR/>And to do so, we simply make all of our meek adjustments.<BR/><BR/>Peace to you sister. Again, sorry for this loss and all that it entails.Franhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07181529277715646835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34240686.post-41682160105891414622007-10-18T10:05:00.000-04:002007-10-18T10:05:00.000-04:00BTW...Future - that was a very moving post. I fee...BTW...Future - that was a very moving post. I feel exactly the same way you do regarding your experience.<BR/><BR/>Jane - Maui and I want to know if you wanna go fishing????Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34240686.post-65748082424399392022007-10-18T09:49:00.000-04:002007-10-18T09:49:00.000-04:00Maui - what can I say - I feel the same way you do...Maui - what can I say - I feel the same way you do, especially with the family looking to us for so much help.<BR/><BR/>We did what we could and what we were "allowed" to do - I am finding out more and more from speaking to her friends from other counties how true that was.<BR/><BR/>I like to believe that she knew we were there on Sunday. I really do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34240686.post-56572619171716257372007-10-18T08:52:00.000-04:002007-10-18T08:52:00.000-04:00Future, thanks so much for posting the link to you...Future, thanks so much for posting the link to your experience with losing your friend, and the encouraging words.<BR/><BR/>Liz, thanks for your support, I'm hoping someone somewhere will read my post and pick up the phone to call someone they've lost touch with if they were thinking about doing it.Mauigirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15529827915262851910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34240686.post-72896430294174562302007-10-18T03:39:00.000-04:002007-10-18T03:39:00.000-04:00Your poem expresses exactly how you feel. There's ...Your poem expresses exactly how you feel. There's nothing wrong with that. <BR/><BR/>I am sorry. For your loss and the pain of not being reconciled. It's a good reminder to us all.<BR/><BR/>xLiz Hindshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04646532093872561703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-34240686.post-9781199691246290762007-10-18T02:25:00.000-04:002007-10-18T02:25:00.000-04:00No tribute to a friend can ever be bad, when it co...No tribute to a friend can ever be bad, when it comes from the heart, as yours obviously did. I had a similar experience not <A HREF="http://thefuturewasyesterday.blogspot.com/2007/03/way-too-early-way-too-wrong.html" REL="nofollow">long ago</A>. The pain is indescribable; the loss forever.<BR/><BR/>I offer you <A HREF="http://thefuturewasyesterday.blogspot.com/2007/04/anti-depression-kit-contains-following.html" REL="nofollow">this</A>, and hope you can find peace within yourself.The Future Was Yesterdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06515544130113138363noreply@blogger.com